Title tells it all; yes it’s not for faint hearts. It’s not suggested for people who succumb to pressure. Also, it is not for people who are accustomed to the usual way of functioning. It is a challenge; it will define, determine you and will distinguish you from others. It is as rightly mentioned a defining factor, as it will test your limits. Let me not keep you guessing further, all I am suggesting is that you put an end to the cascading effect of an unpleasant meeting or a distressing confrontation at the beginning of your day.
Well we are all aware of how our day is going to be,
should it start off with an annoying beginning. We all know how we feel if we have
a quick disagreement at home, a meeting with the boss that has not gone well or
may be an argument at the grocery store on our way to work. We tend to continue
on these thoughts within the work place too. It may be because our mind is
still processing the situation, which we were a little while ago and is still
in defensive mode. It is preparing us to build up a defensive platform, prepping
up for a similar situation well in advance. A moment ago, we were eager to win
or so ashamed to lose due to numerous reasons, such as shortage of time or
probably it was not an appropriate reaction at that point of time. Our brain
constantly recaps the entire situation over and over again. Whatever be the
case, it would be just right if our mind lets go off that response and allows
us continue with our normal self. Instead, we dwell on the issue, tend to carry
on that reflection and vent out our reaction on each and everything that follows
further.
Well let’s just give it a thought, is it fair that
we try and cascade our rough experiences and anger to influence the pleasant
things in store for us. Even otherwise, how can we justify carrying on our
impressions of a particular situation and let that disturb a complete different
situation all together. Hence the
beautiful quote:
“Holding
on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at
someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
― Gautama Buddha.
― Gautama Buddha.
Following pointers could help us quickly recover and
set advancement for things to follow:
·
Considering the mishap that occurred was
one isolated thing, that has gone wrong in varied things in day to day life.
·
Diffusing the resultant anger, frustration
and absolutely avoiding the cascading effects on people we meet further.
·
Thinking the situation with a cool head
as to what exactly went wrong and what triggered the injury and consequent aggression.
·
Finally, re evaluating that how such reactions
can spoil relationships, disturb other things so easily, that was established
with a great effort.
It requires great courage to let go off the thought
of a failure at a particular situation. It requires even more mettle, not to let
it interfere with the subsequent events and mess up the things further. Good leaders
are brave hearts, who absorb the distraction and diffuse the situation; and obviously
not let the affects compound.
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