In life we like few people. These
people in most cases will be our own family, relatives and friends (who are as
good as family) so on and so forth. We
are bound to like and love these folks as it is either biological or reasons
that are time tested relationships. We know that they will be there for us no
matter what. It is quite natural. The more number of such people we have the
better for us.
Apart from the said set of
people, we also have another group of people who we eventually end up getting acquainted
with; as part of growing up, neighbourhood, our career, travels etc. Let us for
the ease of understanding we will name them as Group 1 and Group 2. Though what
we discuss in this post is generic to all relationships, it is the Group 2 that
we would be focussing more in this post. The reason we need to understand this
group is that it is formed as a result of our own choices. In a way they define
us. Let us first understand the process of how we make such acquaintances.
These based on the conversations
that we have with them, matching of our likes and dislikes, the amount of time
we are associated with them etc. We are likely to form our observations among
those conversations. We identify and associate them with certain traits. We try
to match it with our own experience and expectations. If the score is right we
tend to like that person a lot, irrespective of how that person may treat or
behave with us or others in the long run. Few pointers that help establish such
great connections:
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Identifying people
who are honest, not self centric, who value contributions of others.
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People who tend to
give good counsel always.
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People who advise
us the right thing and not the thing that seems right at that point of time.
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People who do not
tend to customize their suggestions as per the situation or the person in
question.
It helps us a lot to identify
genuine well wishers in life, they are hard to find. After identifying them,
make efforts to connect with them even if it involves some small sacrifices. Once
a connection is established, reciprocate the feeling and treasure them for life.
Never ever hurt someone who likes you, because the world is shrinking rapidly relationship
wise; as such people are irreplaceable in life. This Group 2 set of friends
sometimes give us valuable advice when we have some major issues with Group1 and
vice versa.
We must always remember that the major driver
in all our relationships is ‘Our own expectations’. It helps us a lot if we
keep our own expectations fair, just and reasonable.
Also remember we are among Group 1 and Group
2 for so many other people too.
Happy Learning! and Happy Sharing!
